Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others. (Philippians 2:3-4)
Please bear with me while I once again harp on the attitude we are to practice toward one another. I was going to add, “in the church,” but upon reviewing the above Scripture passage I didn’t see that distinction made. This is one aspect of the Great Commandment that Jesus defined in Mark 12:28-34.
29 Jesus answered, “The most important is, ‘Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. 30 And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ 31 The second is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’”
We need to continuously examine our actions, and where needed, adjust our attitude toward others, especially those whom we dislike. Personality conflicts will happen, but we must never allow that to override our love for those irritating people.
I just noticed a rather significant statement in Mark’s account above, where Jesus said, “Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one.” In Deuteronomy 6:4-5, from which Jesus quoted, the author used God’s personal name: YHVH, though to be pronounced, Yahovah. So here is Jesus, whom the Jews thought to be a usurper and blasphemer, declaring God’s perfect unity. That either took a lot of nerve, or Jesus was uniquely qualified to declare it.
So, “Deference!” Are you, in lowliness of mind, esteeming others better than yourself? For your sake, I hope so.